Communicating from the Heart – Basics

Communicating properly can be challenging!

Being in any relationship is the most challenging thing a human being can face. And it is almost impossible to avoid. Even if you live in a monastery, you will have some relationship with someone at some point.

Sometimes, the people in our lives directly or not might hurt us because of the lack of an essential factor for anybody to succeed in life: Communication.

Communication is not just about one listening, and the others listen passively, agreeing to everything you say, without questions, or not giving their own opinions.

What is Communication?

According to Skills, You Need  Communication, “Communication is simply the act of transferring information from one place, person or group to another. Every Communication involves (at least) one sender, a message, and a recipient.”

communication, n. The imparting or exchanging of information by speaking, writing, or using some other medium. …The successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings.

Oxford English Dictionary

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It can be:

  • Verbal: i.e., face to face, telephone, and more.
  • Non-Verbal: i.e., gestures
  • Written: i.e., emails, letters, etc.
  • Visualizations: i.e., maps, charts, etc.

With the progress of technology, more and more ways of communicating are becoming more and more available each day, which makes it difficult to follow up sometimes, and even know what is correct or not. Still, this subject is for another article.

However, one more essential thing that we all should know when it comes to Communication is that every form of Communication involves at least a sender, a message, and a receiver.

And different things, such as emotions, noises, cultural background, the medium used to communicate, location, and even the agenda and the goal, can affect your communication methods.

Bad Communication is a threat to a healthy life.

Maybe the basis of Communication, you already knew, because these are things we learn in primary school. But it is great to remind ourselves as well.

I dealt with a lot of abusive forms of Communication. From a very young age, my mom and sisters got used to saying bad words to me, calling me names at every chance they had.

If I have not to brake on them, they will continue to behave that way because it is just how they learned to be, believing that it is ok to talk badly to people, diminish them, and treat others like nothing.

My upper bring made me overprotective, have serious trust issues, and have a compassionate way of communicating with others. Of course, all of this plus is unhealthy; it created so much anxiety, and fear, making me walk away from so many people that maybe deserve or do not have another chance.

Social life-wise, I closed my circle to have a handful of friends that, at first, I would give a grace period to make mistakes and then get kicked from this little circle in a heartbeat.

I am not sure if you are like me 100%, but I am sure that if you are here at my Blog, we can relate somehow 😁

The whole communication issue can create problems for the receiver or the sender, simply like that.

A feel days ago, I thought about how some things repeat themselves. Even though I communicate directly, from a place of love and compassion, I keep coming across rude people who love to shout and try to put me down with their words.

My conclusion is if there is a repetitive pattern, it might be that I haven’t learned my lesson. But it can also be that the universe, the divine, wants me to keep strengthening my patience and my kindness muscle. Not just to myself but also to help others learn how to communicate better.

Dos and Don’ts while communicating with anybody

Let me lay some easy dos and Don’ts here for you guys, and help you improve your communication skills!

Do’s

Listen, listen, and listen! If you are on the receiver side, the best thing you can do is listen. Listen without making a mockery and dismissive face; listen with attention and RESPECT.

You do not have to answer to what something is constantly saying. You can take your time to put your thoughts together and give an opinion/answer.

On the other hand, if you are the sender of the message, be honest, transparent, RESPECTFUL, use words of kindness and love, and explain things in a language that the others will understand clearly.

Don’ts
  • Be disrespectful
  • Shout
  • Scream
  • Use offensive words
  • Call people names
  • Compare people to others in a negative way
  • Lie
  • Manipulate
  • Gaslight others
Speak and listen always with an open heart.

Why an open heart? When we have our hearts available to give and receive, we become able to see things from a spiritual side. What is the common language of all the beings?

It is easier to find the right words and listen to others’ feelings, needs, complaints, and pains when we are with our hearts in the right place.

A heart full of resentment, anger, and pain won’t have anything positive and good to share, nor will it be receptive to anybody else’s message that does not revolve around their ego.

What is the main goal?

The main goal is to get your message delivered clearly and objective. Coming to a resolution, where all the parts are somehow satisfied, feeling heard, respected, free to express themselves, and eventually reaching the final goal.

Check the video below on my live workshop on Love Communication to learn more!

 

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